Belladonna Career Coaching

Moving through discomfort

I am out of my comfort zone, to be completely honest, way outside my comfort zone since I returned to my home country and birthplace, Bremerhaven, Germany.   Of course, we all know that it is out of our comfort zone where growth takes place, yet few people would voluntarily choose to subject themselves to discomfort, even if it is temporary.

I find myself in an environment that makes little sense to me.  After decades of absence and living in the United States, some things have changed, and others haven’t.  What has changed drastically is me!  My mindset is not the same as when I left, nor is my physical body.  I need to relearn everything to grow and soar. 

Relearning is defined as reacquiring previously learned knowledge or abilities after a period of time has passed. You probably have heard the old saying, “It is just like riding a bike; it’ll come back to you,” suggesting that our memory will kick in and expedite the learning experience to previous levels. 

RELEARN is also the fourth and final phase of my signature coaching program called SOAR (the acronym stands for the four phases SEEK, OUTLINE, AWAKE, and RELEARN), which helps professionals to transform mindfully and with ease so you can soar in all areas of your life.  Currently, I am utilizing my study guides to help me wrap my head around my own massive transformation.  The tools I utilize in the RELEARN phase of SOAR are:

  1. Learning to let go.
  2. Raising your energy level
  3. Practice to mastery
  4. Finding the best version of yourself
  1. Learning to let go.

As mentioned in previous articles and according to the philosophy of Taoism, we need to learn to release six areas in life.  They are:

  1. a)     The past
  2. b)    The future
  3. c)     People
  4. d)    The desire to rush things.
  5. e)    Excess
  6. f)      Ego

I am practicing letting go of all these things that hold us back and being present in the here and now.  I do feel pain in doing so, and it does not always come easily.  When thoughts of my past in the US or of the people I call friends come up, I acknowledge how much they mean to me and who I have become as a person through our interactions.  I am thankful for the experience, and that level of gratitude allows me to return to the here and now, where there are other people I cherish, appreciate, and love.  I also practice not listening to my ego while I am searching for employment.  And I refrain from projecting too far into the future and trying to rush things, as I know that what is for us will not pass us, and we cannot interfere with divine timing.

  1. Raising your energy level

As an energy leadership index master practitioner, I recognize levels of energy and know when they serve us vs. when they don’t.  I also know how to raise my level of energy and that of others.  I am aware that victimhood is unpleasant, especially when we are feeling powerless over an extended period.  Such a state can lead to depression if unaddressed. There are, however, methods not to let it get to that point.  All we need to do is examine our attitude and question our thoughts to find other perspectives that better serve us.  In my current situation, I constantly remind myself that I am here by my own choice, and I look at everything I am learning about myself and my new environment.

  1. Practice to Mastery

According to the Institute of Excellence in Coaching, there are ten disciplines we can practice to achieve Mastery of our Mindset and resonate at the highest levels of energy (see my series ten practices to unleash the career of your dreams on my blog https://belladonnacareercoach.com/ten-practices-to-unleash-the-career-of-your-dreams/).  While I do not want to go into detail at this point, I always recommend that my clients focus on the first three disciplines in every situation. 

  1. a)     Awareness
  2. b)    Acceptance
  3. c)     Conscious Choice

I am fully aware of my current environment, circumstances, and feelings and accept them as they are right now.  Then I think about how I want to feel in that particular moment, and I choose whether to love it, leave it, or change it.  We are always at choice about our thoughts, feelings, and actions.  This is how we can remain in our power, even when we feel helpless.

  1. Find the best version of yourself!

At the end of my signature coaching program, SOAR, you will have gained a deep understanding of who you are, what you stand for, your purpose, and what you are willing to tolerate.  With this knowledge, you can set goals for yourself and crush them.  Once you step into the shoes of your authentic self, you can conquer the world; that is precisely what I intend to do with my current transformation.  I am relearning to find the best version of myself to SOAR and live my best life on the European continent.

If you want to learn more about inner transformations, contact me at angela@belladonnacareercoach.com.  I’ll be honored to be your guide.